This has been a Christmas of transition. We all gathered for Mum’s 90th birthday in a rocking party in November enjoying contact with 100 family and friends – but now we are making a big change in December.
We are letting go of the whole extended family lunch that we have had for many years. All of our families have changed over these times, and now there are grand-children and even great grand-children. We have spread across states and the younger generation have now moved into establishing families of their own, along with the addition of partners and their families too.
Of course these younger families need to create their own traditions and ways of being. They do not have to repeat the past: their love will be expressed in new ways. Sometimes it will incorporate past practices and sometimes it will be quite new.
This is the process of life, and change and growth are as they should be.
For the older ones, some of the changes will bring twinges of regret and loss, even while we understand. We had our turn, and we did it our way.
We may just require a little tender handling first time around. We are feeling our way just as you are.
Don’t be mistaken though – there will also be benefits for us, and for some of us there will be sighs of relief as well, as we rock up ready to be surprised and to see what has been created.
If the changes include families deciding to go away for a holiday or having Christmas with the ‘in-laws’ or moving out of reach, don’t worry – we will manage to create a happy and healthy Christmas within our own resources.
We know you love us, and you know we love you.
That never changes, and it is not all about just one day.